guitar god?

You & Emma know how to play the guitar – that’s cool.  It makes me think of my early days with music… at the age of 10 I was completely smitten with all things rock & roll.

The first photo of me was taken on my birthday when I got mynew guitar.  I’m in my kitchen at 7 Lord Court in Somersworth.  I’m guessing it was taken circa1966.  I remember the first song I played on it was “Hanky Panky” by Tommy James & the Shondells which was  a #1 song in America that year.  It would have been my 13th birthday.

Yeah, looking at that photo, I was pretty darn geeky,  but in my tiny brain girls “(“chicks” as we called them in the 60’s) loved me.  Evidence: the second photo.  Sadly, that was the myopic little world I lived in.  Full disclosure? The “girls” were two of my cousins + my sister Fran + my young cousin Phil.   Whatever, any audience is appreciated!

”My baby does the hanky panky (yeah)
Yeah, my baby does the hanky panky
Hey, my baby does the hanky panky
My baby does the hanky panky
My baby does the hanky panky

I saw her walking on down the line (yeah)
You know I saw her for the very first time
A pretty little girl standing all alone
Hey baby, baby, can I take you home?
I never saw her, never really saw her (oh, yeah)

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summer shoulder surgery

On June 19 Grammy and I drove to Patriot’s Place in Foxboro.  Sounds like fun, right? Unfortunately I was there to have surgery on my rotator cuff – not watch a football game.  My shoulder has been hurting for 8-10 months and I’ve been getting weaker, so it was time to get ‘er done.

The surgeon who worked on me – Dr. Oh – is one of the talents in the world of shoulder surgery.  He’s worked with Patriots and Red Sox players.  I was in good hands, and within a few hours of getting to Mass General/Brigham & Women’s hospital, we were on our way back home, Grammy taking over the driving duties.

I’ll feel crappy for 4-6 weeks, sleeping in a recliner, wearing a sling day and night, not being able to drive or use my right hand for anything. But you gotta do what you gotta do and suck it up to get to a better place.  I’ll do lots of physical therapy, but in 6-9 months I’ll be back in the game.

It’s weird – last year Grammy was down and out with her hip surgery; this year it’s my turn with shoulder work.  Sometimes in life you have to go through challenging times to get to a better place.

I was so happy and a little emotional seeing your drawings, cards and balloons when I got home. You made my day!  I’m so lucky to have you in my life.  Love you lots & lots forever.

photo below: Papa is obviously not pleased to be in this situation. Lefty better step up his game, he’s got a lot to do with righty out of commission.

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looking back on a magical time

June 18 was a special day for you & your siblings – the last day of school in Dover!

Epic!

I still remember what it felt like as a kid when summer arrived. In those days we would have said Groovy!

As the final week of school wound down, our teachers (nuns in my case) backed off a little bit on the homework.  Classrooms were hot and we had a hard time paying attention to anything. Freedom was upon us.  Freedom to not go to school for an incredible two and a half months. Feedom to not have to study, take tests and sit still without moving at  our wooden desks. Freedom to be a kid, relax and have a little fun.

I hung out with my friends during summer, read books, swam in my above-ground pool, climbed trees, made models, listened to rock and roll on my transistor radio, read comic books, went to the Pines recreation center, played baseball, shot baskets, and made slingshots out of Y tree branches.

Summer sunlight lasted way later, until 8:30-9pm.  I remember the loud sounds of crickets in the woods at night outside my open bedroom window.

Several times during the summer, we’d visit my Grandmother at her cottage at Wells, Beach, often sleeping over.  She’d bake bread and her husband (not my real paternal grandfather) would bake pies.  I loved playing with my army men on the beach, throwing the frisbee, digging holes and going in the water.

Relatives on my Mom’s side came down from Berlin, NH (where she was born and went to school). I liked hanging out with favorite cousins, Paul & Marc Montminy (twins), who were two years older than me. On warm summer nights, we’d gather on our screened in porch at 7 Lord Court in Somersworth, eating sliced canned ham and potato salad my Mom inevitably served along with her trademark Oh Henry rice krispie treats with peanut butter chocolate icing.

Below: first photo: at Echo Lake in North Conway…me in the middle, Paul left with boat, Marc to my right, sister Fran to my far right. Second photo: Fran and me in front of our garage at Lord Court, Somersworth, posing with our new Schwinn bikes.  Third photo: Fran and me at Wells Beach during one of our visits at Memere’s cottage.

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At least once during the summer wed reverse roles and my family would drive up to Berlin or we’d meet up at Echo Lake or White Lake State Parks for the day, having picnics, hiking around the lake, swimming and eating.  I loved those days most of all.

My favorite summer foods?

I loved fruit. Nectarines, plums, peaches, watermelon.   I ate plenty of stuff that – looking back – wasn’t good for me like ring dings, funny bones, devil dogs and twinkies.  There wasn’t a single candy I didn’t like as a kid. I loved summer veggies including cucumbers, radishes, tomatoes and scallions.

Fave drinks? White milk, chocolate milk, Hawaiian punch and Zarex (a fruit concentrate I’d mix with water).

When my sister Fran and I were too young to stay home by ourselves, my Dad worked second shift at the Portsmouth Naval Shipyard to be with us during the day when my Mom worked at the same place.  We always liked the fried spam sandwiches he’d make.  He’d slice up the “ham,” melt american cheese on it, place it in between two slices of bread and add lettuce and mayo.  We hung around him while he ate it, hungry eyes begging for a bite. He never disappointed us.

Another summer memory is my sister and I eating potato chip sandwiches – Wise chips, mayo and white bread.  Definitely not healthy, but we loved it!

Sometimes Dad would take us to a nearby lake before he went to work.  He taught me how to swim when I was young. He loved the water.

I went to summer camp several years – Camp Carpenter in Manchester -run by the Boy Scouts. I learned how to start a fire without a match, swam a mile in the lake without a life preserver, went on canoeing expeditions and learned new things so I could become a Life Scout (one notch below Eagle Scout, the ultimate peak of Boy Scoutness.)

I often went up to Berlin for a full week, staying with Paul & Marc, sleeping there every night, going to drive-in movies and walking around what seemed like a huge city, compared to Somersworth.  One time my cousin Paul grabbed a cat by the tail and twirled it around and around. The cat was not pleased.  Paul ended up becoming a priest when he grew up, too funny!  So did his twin brother Marc.

Summer lasted forever. When it was time to go back to school, I always felt like I had changed tremendously, wasn’t the same kid, and a new world of possibilities would open up for me as a new school unfolded. I was convinced everyone would notice how different I was, but no one ever did.  They probably felt the same way.

Time feels different when you’re older, zipping by much faster.

I’m so happy summer is here.  You’ve got time and freedom to fully relax, be young and free, have fun in an uncomplicated world, sleep in late, laugh all the time and live 100% in the moment.  All the summer adventures we’ve had together over the years will be with me always, keeping me young at heart. What a gift you’ve given me.

When you’re older, you’ll look back on the amazing time known as summer vacation and smile, your own memories flowing back like a spring waterfall.

Enjoy every second Ben, these are special days.

 

a red letter day in your lifetime

Woo-hoo!

Congrats on getting your driver’s license Ben!  Proud of you.

This is a red letter childhood to adulthood moment (maybe the first one?) we remember the rest of our lives.   One minute we’re relying on our parents to get us around to a whole new world with increasing personal freedom and Independence. It’s so epic.

Way to go on getting the #1 score within your driver’s ed school team.  You worked hard and it showed – you passed two written exams and the driving course with flying colors.

Work hard, put in the effort and good things (will always) happen. You just proved that true.

I’ve always loved to drive, and can’t imagine a world where cars are doing it for me – no thanks!   Be careful out there Ben, make good choices, relax behind the wheel and above all, enjoy the ride.IMG_1368

 

 

 

happy 16th birthday Ben!!

16 years!

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One decade and six years have somehow come and gone since you entered our life as grandchild #1 on April 30, 2004.

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How did that happen?!?  All those time-worn cliches about time passing way too quickly are all true.

What a gift seeing a tiny baby with a bright, mysterious, wide open future grow up and become an amazing young man with a fantastic sense of humor, scary smart brain, good looks, kind heart, easy going nature and unlimited potential.

The past16 years have been the best of our life, Ben. Grammy and I are so blown away with who you’ve become, what you stand for and all the amazing potential unfolding in your life.  You’ve fulfilled our wildest dreams of what we could have hoped for in grandchild #1.

We’re so proud and love you more than a billion buckets of beach sand. You are epic.

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hoppy happy Easter 2019

IMG_9787it was fun being together on Easter Sunday. We had a two level egg hunt and certain grandchildren (ALL) pounded down the chocolate and candy. Each egg had at least $1.00- and some had $5 and $20. Understandably, not a lot of ham and mashed potatoes were eaten! Hey! Two people in this photo have their eyes closed… are they tired… sleeping?

Ode to Apple

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I’ve been around more dogs and cats than I can remember, some mine, most others, but Apple Clickman was the one who stole my heart.

Apple wasn’t one of those cookie cutter tongue wagging la-dee-da tail wagging dog cliches always in the same sort of mood.

Don’t get me wrong, she always greeted me and Grammy (and everybody else) with excitement and super friendliness.  “Hello! I’m so happy to see you, come in, come in!”  She was a happy dog and no one knew that better than her best human friends Josh, Nicole, Ben, Emma, Molly and Jack who hugged, petted, loved and appreciated her every day.

We often laughed how she’d run away just to meet new people, enjoying every minute before she hopped in the car to return home.  I’m sure she felt bad for causing such distress, but darn it if that wasn’t a fun little adventure!

Yet with Apple there was more, an added dimension, a soulful spirit that set her apart. This dog had depth, range, and a human persona.

When she was sad, scared or disappointed, we could see it, feel it.  If she was having a bad moment, we sensed the burden, wanting to ease the pain.  “It’s okay Apple, it’s going to be alright.”  It was like that with everybody.

There’s an old expression (used for people), “The eyes are the windows to the soul.”  That held true for Apple, her eyes revealed an inner complexity that surprised.

Nothing made Apple feel worse than being scolded or thinking she was in trouble (even when she wasn’t).  Her entire black and white fur coated dog being withdrew with fear, uncertainty and doubt.  It broke your heart seeing her confused or disappointed and we’d all try to make it better.

Her vulnerability made her human.  She had layers of visible emotion I could feel, see and sense.  This dog was wonderfully intuitive.  Here’s an example:

Apple not only hated and reacted to the sound, flash and fury of thunderstorms and changes in weather, she could sense something big was brewing in the air well before it hit.   The thundercoat you bought couldn’t touch, let alone control, this fear.

Last summer when a thunderstorm kicked up, Apple was hell bent for hiding, darting down the hallway. I intercepted, sat on the floor and gave her the longest full body hug I’ve ever given a four legged being, pressing gently but firmly, telling her all the while it would be okay. I don’t know if it helped, but it made me feel like I had eased her trauma a bit.

Did Apple have some kind of miniaturized built-in doggie barometer that measured atmospheric pressure?  Maybe, but I’d like to think it was an example of human intuition.

(Apple’s built-in intuitive dog barometer?)

I always enjoyed taking her ears and covering her eyes. Last time I saw her, I did that; it was a frequent thing with me.  Apple would sit there and let me do it, nose patiently and proudly in the air.  I’m pretty sure she didn’t like it, but it didn’t hurt and she never wanted to disappoint. I’m sure she was always thinking:

“Oh geez, he’s going to do that a-g-a-i-n.  Take my ears and stretch them over my eyes.  Why does he do that?  Why? I seriously think there’s something wrong with him.  They don’t even completely cover my eyes. I mean, come on. Whatever, he’s a decent guy, I’ll just grin and bear it. He seems to get such a kick out of it.  Such a simple man…”

I’m pretty sure she felt the same way when I put sunglasses on or a baseball cap.  She’d  patiently let me do it every… single…time… never wanting to disappoint.  That’s why she let her pal Ruby take over her bed and push her around.  Whatever. Always love. She got even by eating Ruby’s food.

There was a regal-ness to Apple.  When she lay down, her front paws would cross in a way that conveyed sophistication and class.  She carried herself like a Queen. She was doggie Royalty.  Even when she got older and the gray set in, Apple always looked…

F-A-B-U-L-O-U-S.

She was needy in the best possible way, needing to love and be loved.  That’s the ticket, right?  You give and you get.  I don’t know what made me feel better – knowing how much she loved a hug and belly rub, or the feeling I got making her feel good.

A true friend reaches out for your hands and touches your heart.  That’s what you did Apple. Gonna miss you, always will.  You rocked.

 

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St. Patrick’s Day + Sunday dinner = wild & crazy times

It’s always a darn good day when Grammy and I have our entire family gathered together.  The Big 13!!  Sunday, March 17 was special because that was the case +  it just happened to also be St. Patrick’s Day.

Grammy and I were ready with green shamrock clappers, beads, hats (large and mini), coins and decorations.  Everyone took St. Patty’s day pencils.  It got rowdy when we all made the hand clappers go at maximum loudness simultaneously – impressive!

The leek dip was green, so were the cupcakes.  She served one of your favorites, Shepherd’s Pie ‘O Delicious.  It was a wild, whacky celebration!

During dinner the question came up: who was St. Patrick and what did he do?  I said “he got rid of all the snakes that had infested Ireland.”  Turns out it’s folklore but a very common belief as evidenced by this drawing I found online.  Go St. Patrick, you’re a badass.

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www.irishcentral.com

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